Family meth Intervention
Methamphetamine Intervention is the first and one of the most important phase for recovery.
The first thing to do is to find the right meth treatment for the addict. When you get the person to agree to go to rehab. It is not time to find a meth rehab. It is time to go. This is a very critical point of the meth intervention. How to find a meth rehab is all covered in the section Rehabilitation. Every single thing has to be ready.
What is the ruin of the addict?
The addict has things in his/her past or present that seems like a devastating event and which has something to do with methamphetamine. One example is a person that has lost his best friends due to his Addiction. Another example is a person losing his wife and child over meth abuse or other drugs. A family member can look at an addict’s life and see hundreds of reasons he/she should quit using meth but unfortunately these reasons are not REAL to the addict. There is however problems the addict encounters that are real or significant in the addicts life, which he/she sees as a reason to quit using methamphetamine. These are important to identify because they can be used during the meth intervention to remind the addict why he/she must seek help.
What pressures does the addict feel now?
The addict does not necessarily have the same reality about their meth addiction that non-addicts might. For instance, he/she may have semi serious health problems/no friends and no job or income but feel like they are “doing OK”. Many addicts have actually overdosed on methmphetamine coming very close to death and are right back using meth the very next day. This may appear crazy but in fact is only part of the pain for the addict.
With this in mind, the addict from time to time will encounter added pressure, which forces them to make an actual decision about whether to seek help or continue to use.
Pending legal charges that could easily lead to jail time, threat of losing spouse, pending loss of job, all are possible situations where a person has enough pressure to fight the meth addiction and seek help. Although any one in particular may not work in your situation, there are pressures that can come to bear which will help prod the addict into a decision to seek help for his methamphetamine addiction. It is easy to assume the addict is “only seeking help to avoid jail” or some other evaluation which in many cases is true. The fact remains that an addict will only seek help when some one or some thing pushes him out of his ” meth addiction comfort zone” and forces him into a decision. Very few meth addicts with access to money, a place to live, people who agree with his meth usage and no legal issues seek help. They “don’t have a problem with methamphetamine “. This is very important to understand and will be crucial in any attempt at intervention.
Who should be there?
One of the major considerations involving intervention is selecting what person should be involved in it. This matter should be well thought out before it happens. The number of people is less important than which person is there. If at all possible, the individual in the family whom the addict respects the most should be there.
This person is an opinion leader to the meth addict and needs to be there fully supportive of getting the person help and informed well about the actual agenda.
There are no set up numbers of family members who should be there as long as each and every one of them are totally in agreement about the fact that the person needs help and supportive of the general agenda. If a person in the family is antagonistic against the addict and is not capable of restraining themselves from arguments and blame then you might consider leaving this person out.
Normally, the addict has severral enemies and has done wrong to most of the family. But arguments that are agitated and disturbing will not benefit the cause of getting the addict to seek meth rehab and in fact will normally result in stopping this from happening because the focus of attention gets placed on the argument and not on the intervention itself.
Many people hire professional meth intervention counselors to run it. This is advisable in many situations but not a necessity in most of the intervention. This depends largely on individual circumstances. For instance, does the individual have pending legal issues, external pressures etc. or does the person deny completely any meth usage. These type factors need to be considered intensely before bringing in an outside person.
You may want to seek help in establishing who should be present at the intervention because it is a crucial element.
When is the appropriate time?
When does the meth intervention should take place? Ideally this has less to do with the family schedule and more to do with what’s going on in the addict’s life.
The best time for an intervention is right after a major event. Such an event would be arrested, or when he/she has wronged (lied, stolen, cheated etc.) a family member and demonstrates remorses or guilts. Another good time would be if the spouse would be leaving. Yet another good tmie would be after an overdose. Although you obviously don’t want to risk the addict’s life by postponing forever, an intervention will be exponentially more effective after such events when the addict is down and feels like his/her world is coming to a dead end.
Even in the absence of these events, an intervention can be successful especially if the family is close to the addict daily so that every little situation is known from the family. An addict’s life is a major roller coaster and the only way an addict can deny their meth problem is to successfully hide these problems from people who love him.
A major consideration should be when the meth addict is sober. In the case of methamphetamine, this should be in the morning after the addict has slept. In the case of Heroin or Methadone or opiate type Drugs, it will be when they are withdrawing and not high. In either case attempting an intervention while someone is extremely high will normally not be productive because the addict can not see many of their problems and their attention will be fixed elsewhere.
In general, the timing of the intervention is crucial and needs planning but at the same time an addict’s life is very unstable so opportunities present themselves reasonably frequently.
What is the general language or message?
The tone should be concern. The intention should be clear. It should be unwavering.
” We love you, we’ve always loved you, we’ll never stop loving you but we’re not willing to watch you kill yourself with meth “.
The family should definitely express their concerns but not sympathize with the meth addict. Sympathy is a form of agreement and can back fire by justifying the addiction to meth.
Without any anger or fear, the addict should “get” from every persons present that the situation is known and that he/she needs meth rehab. Don’t allow stories of family problems and life’s troubles sway the attention off the point that the addict has a problem and needs to seek help fixing it. This is where the family’s preparation pays off.
What is Plan B?
A meth intervention with proper planning and carried out correctly will result most of the time in an addict agreeing to receive help. But you must accept the fact that ultimately someone may for whatever reason say “NO”. This scenario needs to be thought out in advance so that the family consistently moves to the proverbial -plan B.
If for whatever reason the intervention fails, the addict is still an addict and statistically the situation will likely get worse not better, so what would be the action taken by the family at this point? The family knows the person is addicted and the addict has been confronted with this fact so whatever message the family gives the addict at this point is critical.
By refusing to seek meth treatment program for his meth addiction the addict in general is saying to the family ” I want to continue to use meth. I want to keep the families suffering. I want to control my own life.” The family will intern answer with every word and action taken. If the family says ” I understand. Please leave and don’t expect any money or support in any way, unless you decide to get help.” Then the addict is left to run his/her life which they usually do not have the ability to do, and before long you have a person who “DECIDES” that meth rehab is the best thing and calls saying just that. If on the other hand the family sort of acts disappointed and carries on as usual, then the addict gets the message that it is OK to continue this life style and will put up even more resistance to intervention in the future having bested the intervention team previously.
Obviously, there are certain risks involved with either approach and should be evaluated clearly before hand. One thing is certain, as long as the addict continues to use, they risk the only one thing they have; their life.
The bottom line is that a meth addict needs to decide, for whatever reason, that they need help. Most ” locked down ” approaches fail because the addict is not part of the recovery. The only way an addict can normally fight against the addiction to meth is when enough external pressure is applied to cause them to decide to quit. Many call this “the bottom”. However, there can be many bottoms. Obviously some are lower than others, but each can make a person quit meth. It just depends on what happens when someone is there. For instance a person is facing serious charges and is very scared. The person will either have an intervention and go to rehab or will get through this situation and be back out using. In the final analysis, it is often the family who both spots the incident and uses it to achieve meth rehab, or misses and waits.